solo: without another or others; single; one and only… (Websters)
There you have it! While I firmly believe in the ability of an individual to be able to grow within a meaningful relationship, I also believe that some time alone is also good.
This weekend I have the opportunity to house- and dog-sit for a friend who lives a few miles from my home. When I told my partner of my idea to help out our friend, she thought it would be a good idea. At first I was taken aback (just a little). I thought, That was way too easy!
After we discussed it for a few minutes, it came out that she was beginning to feel overwhelmed by her creative pursuits as well as by life in general. After a bit of introspection, I realized I was feeling just about the same. I knew there were things going on in my life about which I needed to sort out before I could even talk about them.
She and I have a wonderful relationship and are extremely supportive of each other’s endeavors. Every once-in-awhile, however, a little space is needed in order to “breathe.” Sure, you could say that when I go to events such as photo l.a. doesn’t that give us each some time? Of course. For me, though, most of my time at events is spent “working the floor.”
In order to clear your mind of all the detritus that has built up, you really need to have a few days of “alone” time. Time to think about new projects you may want to pursue. Time to think about which projects you need to drop. Time to ponder the actual possibilities of buying that new camera or renting that new studio space. A few days is just enough time to make that list with a clear mind, without daily the interruptions of neighbors, the phone, etc.
How do you clear your mind? A retreat to your friend’s cabin? Stay out in the tool shed? Spend a weekend with mom and dad… or your son’s new family? However you choose to get some space, be sure to use it wisely. Prior to your “solo” weekend create a list of a few things you might want to accomplish. If you only get one thing done. That works for me!